Monday, March 25, 2013

Find light in the beautiful sea.

How does time work, really? Where does it go? It just flutters by and then it's 2013 and it's almost April of 2013 and what happened?

In related news, yes, it seems things have happened. The best thing about this is it just proves again how amazing Motion City Soundtrack fans are. There's always been so much love, and I'm personally grateful for their classy and cool fans. Hurrah! The last month has been a bit weird, but they are all family and supportive of each other no matter the issue at hand. Also, I totally got Christina (Tony's ladyfriend) into Bunheads in our conversations while they were overseas, so I hope Tony enjoys that with his newly found time!

Jesse returns tonight from Minneapolis, at least for a little while... I don't think he even changed his flight to try to surprise/scare me this time! He was out there playing a show and they worked on some new songs--always exciting.

In turn I spent my weekend with my wives. A few years ago, going out on a Friday night after work was no problem. These days I have to strategically plan. Friday is my favorite day of the week, but also the most exhausting. My friends wanted to go to a dance party in Brooklyn that happens only once a month, so I made sure to get in a good nap on Friday night after work because we were to meet up at 11pm. Yeah, I had to nap. Way things go when you have a 9-5 five days in a row. And it worked because I was able to stay out dancing til about four in the morning! I'm exclaiming all this because I seriously feel proud. Like, "yeah! Still got it!" ...I'm not very cool.

The funniest part of the night was that a girl came up to me on the dance floor - during a Rihanna jam, total Diamonds Interruptus - and yells near my ear: "My friend, he wants to talk to you. Is that okay?"


Has there been some sort of regression in the dating scene in the years since I've been in a relationship and married? Did some girl really just come up to me on behalf of her dude friend? REALLY? Has that guy not approached someone since middle school? Does this have something to do with the popularity of online dating? Do guys not want to face rejection in real life only via an OKCupid message? These are not even all of the questions I had at that moment. ANYWAY, I was like, "Are you serious? I can't even see who you are pointing to, but I'm married anyways, so..." She smiled and danced off. Can somebody fill me in or give me some insight into this? Does this type of behavior normal? Is this how dudes are picking up ladies in darkly lit bars these days? In 2013?

The rest of my weekend was decidedly more relaxed and I enjoyed doing some top secret Maid of Honor crafting--something I rarely do--and then spending a morning with the bride-to-be and her mom!  The rest of the time I spent with errands or random activities. Sometimes I find myself walking down the street while Jesse's gone, kind of wandering. If you haven't noticed, I'm a pretty independent person, but when he's gone sometimes I feel aimless. I can always do whatever I want, but it's more fun when he's around and I have someone to come home to and who wants to see me and spend time with me and it's not like something I have to plan. He's there, I'm there and it's nice just to be together and have each other around. I'm being quite ineloquent but that's me trying to explain what happens sometimes when he's gone. Nothing makes you appreciate another person's mere presence when they have to leave for days at a time! And I am truly happy just to be sitting next to him on a couch doing absolutely nothing.

He lands in about an hour. I am excited.


  1. Oh man I love Bunheads. I even got Josh hooked!

  2. I had a girls weekend earlier this month with a friend of mine from high school, and I stayed up until 2 and 3 in the morning every night, which is no longer a feasible option for my day to day. I was so proud of myself!

    Oh, Matt and I just started The League and we've been binge-watching. Love it!

    1. Ahhhh yes, so glad you are watching The League. It's one of my favorites!

      Hooray for staying up late!

  3. I wish I could say that that's not how people try to flirt and meet others these days, but about a month ago a friend of mine (while a bit drunk) basically told me to tell my good friend how cute she thought he was. I wasn't comfortable with the situation, and long story short nothing came of that (from all fronts). I'm just happy the friendships are all stick in tact. You're right, I think it has something to do with both rejection and also the internet - the internet has made both interaction/conversation far more difficult, but also has given people a false sense of pride about themselves. I haven't done the internet dating thing, and I'm trying to avoid it as much as possible, honestly, but I think it gives everyone a platform to exclaim how wonderful they really are and easily elaborate the truth, if they'd like.

    There's definitely something about being in this age range that's so strange and hard to process - the post-college, working out way into the real world or searching to be in the real world - age range. The 24 - 30s, maybe even a little past that? That could easily be off, but people are all searching for how to make it on their own and meet new people, but it's surprisingly more difficult than we realize. It's not like being in college where joining a club or attending an event can happen as easily as walking into the wrong room on a college campus (basically where those things are easily accessible), but now people have to search and that's something that takes effort and time. Most of that time and effort is swallowed up by work and tasks and being an adult, which just leaves less motivation or energy to get out there. Maybe that's another reason why people are resorting to middle school ways...

    Hopefully that makes sense. Sorry it's so long and most likely poorly worded. You just happened to hit on things I've been spending a fair amount of time thinking about lately... :)

    On a much lighter note, I've got to catch up on Bunheads. I haven't become totally hooked yet, but from what I've seen I've found it enjoyable.

    1. Thank you for the thoughtful comment! The internet has had a definite impact on relationships and dating, with a long list of the pros and cons of it. Regarding your comments about how to find relationships these days at the age post-college, I would think that a dance floor would be a great place... people are crowded and everyone is nearly on top of everyone, it wouldn't have been hard for that guy to sidle up and say "hi"...if I was single and interested I may have smiled back, but if he had I would have just smiled and held up my ring (signature move (tm)). It says a lot about a guy that a friend was sent over, and yes, perhaps it was in correlation to the internet and being able to not face rejection directly. However, major turn off. Seriously! What happens if I had said yes?? Would the go-between signal him to come over? Gawd, so immature! People with a fair amount of confidence - at least as much to go up to someone and say hello - are still the way to go in my book. In fact, I think that's how I got most of my boyfriends in the past. Make eye contact, go up and say "Hi." I never had the patience to wait... And adulthood can make your life busy, but if one's intention is to meet people, you have to make the effort to get out there. ...The internet is great for finding things you like in your community! It's all a matter of putting yourself out there, and I think a lot of people are shying away from that, sadly!

      Yay Bunheads!

  4. You didn't get a note that said "do you like me? Check yes or no"? I mean that's the way to really woo a lady. Especially a married lady.

    1. You're right, that's exactly what I was expecting!